FAMILY COMMUNICATION 5
Halloeveryone! My names are Keith Summers. I was brought up in a townknown as Athens. It is a very small town where everybody knowseverybody. When growing up, the people who were included in my familywere my immediate family members who are my mother, my father, my twoelder sisters, my brother who is slightly older than me, and I who isthe last born in our family. Yes, I consider extending members as myfamily, but I just do not consider them as my immediate family. Myprimary area of study at the MSU is business, with a focus on thebanking and finance option. I am a freshman.
Throughthis course, I hope to gain a deeper understanding of relationshipsin regard to the family because it is possible for people to berelated and have no relationship at all, and so by sharing my ideaswith other people from different races and different backgrounds, Iwill be able to broaden my perception about families and learn a lotmore. Personally, I have my own criteria that I use to determine whois in the family and as well who is out of the family. Growing up inmy family and as the last born has definitely made me realize thatfamily is not always about blood, but it is much more than that. Fora family to be successful in being united there must be respectamongst the members and friends. My criterion of determining whofamily depends on if you are caring and considerate and that I cantrust you enough to confide anything in you. For a person to beconsidered in the family, they must be very supportive and we musthave some kind of special bond. For a person to be considered out ofthe family, his or her behavior must be inappropriate and he or shecould be very difficult to deal with or relate to. I personally havethe belief that a family unit consists of the immediate members.However, my elder sisters are already married and I have two nephewsand two nieces and therefore I consider them to be my immediatefamily. Besides that, I consider the men that have married my sistersas my elder brothers, although they are my brothers in law. Thebottom line to me is that anyone who shows me love, care and supportis my family even if we are not related by blood.
Thekey to a successful family is communication (Wahlroos,1995).If people do not communicate, things in the family will definitelystart falling apart. Therefore, my family remains close by keeping intouch and making sure that we all set a weekend aside to all go homeand visit our parents and bond. We take time off our careers andschool work for those still studying like me and take time to justtalk and reconnect. We even stay up till late into the night justtalking and laughing about our childhood memories as we all share abedroom since our home is small. If an outsider just looked at us asa family and saw the way that we interact, they absolutely get toknow that we are all so close and united. It is easy to tell how afamily actually relates to one another by the way they talk to eachother or act around each other. If we had a house guest for a monthat our home, I would explain to him that as a family we are quiteformal. We always share a meal together and this is the time thateach family members share their peak and pit for the day that was, wepray as a family before having a meal and also before retiring to bedfor the night and watch the news every evening as a family and thishas helped to maintain that family bond (Galvin,Bylund & Brommel, 2012).We also spend our Sundays together by going to church and thereafter,having lunch at a nice restaurant before proceeding home. We thenspend our afternoons watching a television show that fascinates usall and share some laughs together. Such activities done togetherhelp to maintain oneness in the family (Braithwaite& Baxter, 2006).Iwould also explain to the guest that there is freedom in our home inthat you can simply get home earlier in the evening during the weekand go to the kitchen and prepare some food or snacks for him with norestriction at all. This is to show our guest that he is right athome and to also make him feel comfortable during his stay with us.
Ourfamily has some traditions just like any other family. Such customsare very crucial for the growth and the well being of a family(Miller-Day,2011).Since my elder sisters marries into other families, it is not alwayspossible for them to join us as often as we would like but we havemade it a custom that we must always come together every year duringChristmas. We always get the time to go home during Christmas andspend time together, share how our lives currently are, and talkabout a lot of stuff regarding our progress and daily lives. Thistradition has brought a very special meaning into our family becausewe are all now grown up with our separate lives and we do not speakon the phone like daily and so the chance of coming together and do alot as a family during that period ensures that our bonds are wellmaintained and we are aware of what is going on in the life of theother person. It has helped us be able to share our issues and feelrelieved out of the love and support that we show for each other.Communication in the family also exposes some of the personal thingsthat an individual member could be going through, but through thesupport one is able to overcome the negativity (Olson,Kratzer & Symonds, 2012). It makes me realize how beautiful family is and how much of ablessing that it is. During this period when we have all cometogether as a family, my brother and I are still in our twenties andwe still do things in turns like setting up the table for dinner,clearing it up after dinner and cleaning the dishes. Our parents arealways overwhelmed with joy whenever they see our whole familytogether, our in laws and their grandchildren. A big family isbeautiful and joyous to be around. It simply is a blessing tomaintain the bond of love and to be happy for the success that hasbeen achieved by the members of the family. I therefore deem unity ina family a very important aspect as the manner in which people growup and relate to each other in families does affect even the futuregenerations (Gaff& Bylund, 2010).
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