Isit a good idea to adopt children from another ethnic group?
Thereexist various races and ethnic groups in the society today thatvaries in norms and cultures with different principles and behaviors.Children, for example are brought up taught ways to behave and handlethemselves depending on their ethnicity. Most parents have made knownto them. In most cases, most parents feel much connected and attachedto certain races may be due to personal experience or ancestryspirits. Others think it is a wise idea to reach out to those in needregardless of their races. Many have argued differently on thematter, and controversial positions have been stated. Questions likethe moral and political value of the race, racial classification andracial self -identification, how to conceptualize the family in lawand public policy as well as parenting.
Adoptionand Ethnicity has been the subject of debate and opinions have beenbrought up on this subject and the arguments cuts across. Othersbelieve adoption should always consider one parent be of the samerace like that of the child for the adopted child to develop strongand well founded cultural identity when growing up. Arguably, therehas been an outright objection on the above argument and that raceshould never be the subject of debate at any point in time whentaking up a child for adoption. The argument is that family love isof the essence and as long the child can be catered for in allmatters (Derek K, 28).
Basicneeds for a child is all they need and the feel that they are in thehome. In most instance couples opt to adopt after experiencinginfertility and in their marriage and will always want a child whoresembles them and can be called after. In some instances, it notonly implies to the infertile couples, but also parents who arewilling and may be have the calling of providing a better life to achild in need.
Challengesfaced by children of different ethnic group
Childrenfrom different ethnic groups should not be adopted by persons ofdifferent ethnic class because of the challenges and problems thatcome with it especially the afterlife of the child. The child willhave a misplaced identity as he/she grows up hence not able toreceive proper accommodation into the race. Most parents who havetheir biological children tend to favor their own more that theadopted child. The child will feel lonely and hate as she grows up.
RobertColes in his article stated clearly how discrimination is put topractice. The young girl whose heart went to the two miners who diedgives an illustration of the way his daddy never cared, putting allthe blame on the miners and using his powers in the society to comeout clean. The children from a different race will face similarchallenges and no one may be willing to fight for their rights leavealone their own “parents.” (Robert C, 1)
Childrenneed to be listened to in most occasions and given much attention.They deserve full attention from whoever they call daddy/"mommy".Parents themselves may be having differences hence child’s welfareleft at stake. A good example is in Robert’s article when giving anexample of a girl whose daddy owned coal fields. Her mother was notattended to well when she asked of the safety down in the mine, whereshe was informed that such questions are not tolerated and shouldnever raise a voice on the same. Children are taught to be thoughtfuland always pay respect to others no matter the situation. They willshelve their feelings and finally suffer from depression in the longrun,
Childrenof different ethnic group may end being marginalized in the societyand mistreated but will be left with no one to run to because theycannot raise the flag. (Robert C, 1) Despite the young girl’stender age, Robert article has it that she knew that one shouldalways think positively about everyone and above all respect forparents.
MoralValues and standards
Childrenhave difficulty acquiring moral values especially in understandingthe right and the wrong and choosing between the two. They willstruggle and take time to get into the right track which always needsencouragement and assistance from the right individuals whoappreciate their effort and state (Mellonie, 11). Children willbecome what they are taught to be, and most of them wonder aboutmatters of morality that requires the efforts of grown up persons andparents to shine the light.
Parentsin most cases fail to respond to questions put across by the childrenhence failure in establishing moral standards for both the parentsand that of the children. Children deserve moral education and nothand down rules. Children need to be helped live a good life byequipping them with virtues. It contributes to social cohesion in thecommunity
Parentsmay work and do their part in bringing up children from distinctethnic ground, but they may face rejection in the society at large. Agood example is in the school they attend where they may not beneeded. (Robert C, 3) Robert Coles talks of a white boy who was fromthe onset was told by his daddy that the whites should not attendschool with the colored. This may traumatize the child after becauseshe/will develop and negative perception and may not be at ease tocarry on with education.
With the many cultures norms and values that exist in the society itis advisable for the child to be brought up with parents of theirraces to ensure that they attain and are in line with assumptionsmorals and priorities as well as provided mandates. Children drinkthemselves to death because of the feeling of alienation. Some willend up feeling the shame of being adopted by a different race.
Parents are eligible to teaching children that which is permissibleor not permissible and the reasons why some things are notpermissible. Their responsibility is to teach them behaviors andthings in order to demand respect the society. All the above aspectscall for a parent, who understands the society to be able to teach,explain and enable the child to understand what is required of him orher (April E F, 2013). Children should always be brought up in anenvironment that examines what they believe in and always ready tostand for anything that comes. They deserve a constant look on moralissues they encounter, on their journey to adulthood. They look fordominion over their own selves and a sense of belonging and thatwhich they are entitled to which in most cases is provided by thosewho belong to the same ethnic class with the children.
Ignoredculture and heritage
Childrenneed that which they can comfortably believe in giving a larger viewof the entire world. Parents of similar ethnicity with that of thechildren should be available to assess more closely the ideas thechildren have about the universe. Many are cases where children aretaunted and derided for a single fact that they are different. Theyend up being psychologically unwell feeling that their heritage andculture is ignored. Other children will feel uncomfortable with thereligion they are subjected to. It is such a challenge too to theparents trying to ensure the child’s birth culture blends into thenew-established family. (Derek K, 56).
Parentswilling and ready to adopt children of different races will be forcedto study their own beliefs and attitudes towards the race. Parentsneed be sure whether they are ready for such adoption. Some parentsmay go ahead with the notion of adopting a child, not for any goodcause but may be to subject a child to some punishments in "avenge"of the act for example. Parents will not escape humiliation as theyare considered different which in turn load the much weight on thechild.
Thefamily that adopts the child of a different race will automaticallychange and may not at once be comfortable about the change and shouldalways think on how to respond to rejections and negative comments.Interracial adoption takes a toll on one’s lifestyle. Adoptingparents are left with the responsibility of ensuring integratedneighborhood with an integrated school, manage different kinds ofethnic foods and develop friendships with those of different racesand ethnic backgrounds.
It becomes a challenge for parents for they may be forced to adoptsiblings for the security of seeing one another as a resemblance.They may want to reignite their previous history and birth family totheir new -formed family which will be of great help in adjusting.(April E F, 14), International Children may be together adopted andbe able to keep their native language. Adopting parents are forced toinvest in parenting intensely to ensure cultural pride andself-esteem in the children hence developing cultural identities.Tension in an interracial family is experienced in uniqueness andconformity. The two qualities are much essential and should alwaysbalance within a family identity.
Theidea of adopting children from another ethnic group may be encouragedin a society in the present times, but it should not be fullyencouraged. The society takes away the existence of cultures leavingone (Child) with no identity. The children will for a lifetime ponderwith questions like his/her place of origin, his parents. Sense ofbelonging is lost, and although embraced with love, children will atsome point feel lonely and isolated in their own world. Families ofthe same race should always be encouraged because it is much easy fora child to blend with ease. Children, for example, are bullied inschools and other social places. It will always linger in their mindsthat they don’t belong hence unfit in the society.
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ColesRobert, IListen to My Parents and I Wonder What They Believe(May7th, 2012)